We are enthusiastic from the first moment we meet someone new, we feel happy and suddenly the spell of a splash, we are overwhelmed by the routine and we start wondering if there is something wrong with us or if it is the other side of the story?
Even those in love at first sight do not live long and happily as in a fairy tale, a love that is to last for years must be nurtured.
In the 21st century, every third marriage falls apart. This is a reason to reflect on the cause of this phenomenon. Why do we get tied up and it is difficult for us to decide to take the oath.
Marriages most often divorce under the pretext of incompatibility of characters, but at the root of the break-up of a relationship lies the inability to communicate with a partner, pretensions and unexplained conflicts. After all, it takes so little effort to try to create a good relationship. It would only be necessary to find, together, a way to ensure that respect and sympathy prevail over negative emotions, thoughts which also accompany us in our daily lives.
The first advice is to get to know each other again every day. Even though we know each other, knowing each other will help us survive marital storms. It is a matter of knowing what makes us happy or frightened, remembering important events, noticing changes in the partner, getting to know his friends, his dreams. It is never too late to discover yourself.
Let us nurture a feeling of admiration for each other. People even after the marriage ceremony are happy just like each other. In times of crisis, this affection and admiration keeps the relationship from falling apart.
Above all, partners should be friends to each other. The essence of a successful relationship is the contact with a partner in everyday matters, it is the key to love between two people. Let us remember that love is, after all, a lasting relationship, not a short-lived feeling. We do various things together and even these little things connect us.
Together we solve problems, we not only talk but also listen to each other, we try to understand his point of view, to put ourselves in his situation. You should also have your own opinion and be able to express it calmly and without a struggle, a verbal push. When a partner is supposed to be right, to speak about his feelings above all, resolving conflicts without unnecessary emotions, attacking each other. In this way, we will avoid arguments, quiet days and find a solution to the problem.
We learn from each other if we listen to what the other side has to say; we make decisions together so that we find agreement and reach compromises.
Let us avoid accusations, let us not judge the other person, let us not advise and let us listen and come to a common solution, let us avoid sarcasm, let us express our thoughts in a clear way, let us be forgiving and kind to each other, and then we can unite every relationship, offer our feelings, see that together we can face all kinds of problems, human weaknesses, life's turmoil.
Conflicts cannot be avoided, because in every relationship there are more difficult situations and misunderstandings. The solution is a compromise that we can make together.
Let us not believe that a child will bring a relationship together at a critical moment. A child makes people's milkings stay connected to each other for life, but if their relationship has not been perfect before, the relationship at this point will be more like a relationship between the person paying and the person receiving maintenance than real love.
Marriage is not only about bringing up children, but also about creating a family community, with spiritual values, common rituals, aims, values and symbols. The testimony of a happy family are souvenir photos from a common holiday, for example. It is therefore sometimes worthwhile to think about what a happy home means to us. Each of us can afford such a moment of reflection.