Missionary? Doggy Style? Female superior? You'll find all your position guides here.
Have Sex Standing Up
There are several ways to have sex standing up.Vaginal
- The man and woman stand and the woman bends over in front of the man. This is very similar to doggy style and is by far the easiest way to have sex standing up if both the man and woman are about the same height.
- If the woman is shorter than the man or the couple wants to make it a bit more challenging, then the man should stand while the woman wraps her legs around him. This is a more difficult because the man has to hold the woman's weight and has nothing to push against.
- The woman straddles the man but in this case the man pushes the woman against the wall. This helps him support her weight and also gives him something to push against.
- If the two are of similar heights or the woman is taller, then when standing face to face, the man can simply enter with both people standing normally. This can also be accomplished with shorter women by having them wear high heels and/or platform shoes during intercourse.
Have Sex in the Butterfly Position
What is it
If you are looking for the ultimate sexual position, look no further. This is the silver bullet, the one that is damn near guaranteed to get the woman off every time. Why is this position so good? It is all a matter of angles. Because of the angle of the male's penis and the woman's body, the male is able to stimulate the woman's g-spot very well with his penis during sex. It does not take too much of this stimulation to get the woman leaving finger nail marks down the males arms.
Why is it called the butterfly position? Who knows, your body probably looks like a butterfly in some weird convoluted fashion. All that matters is that it works and it is probably something you've never tried before.How do you do it
This is not exactly the easiest position in the world to perform. It is not the most difficult that there is, but it is definitely up there. The position is done by having the woman lie on her back. Her hips and back are then elevated by the males arms as he lifts her vagina so that it lines up with his penis. It is good to have about a foot distance between the male's penis and the platform the woman is lying on. This can be found on a bed for example. The male stands off the bed while he lifts the woman lying on it up to his height.
When the woman is at the right height, just her upper back and head should be resting on the bed still. The male then slides into her and thrusts. Because of the angles involved, it is unlikely that the male will manage to get very deep at all. This is a good thing, the result is that his thrusting power is aimed directly at the G-Spot.What does he do?
It is the male's job to do most of the work in this position. Begin by lifting your partner off the bed or whatever surface is being used. Grab her by the hips or under her buttocks in order to do this better. Position her vagina so that it is about the same height as your penis. Place the penis at the outside of the vagina and then slowly begin thrusting forward. This will cause the penis to push against the top wall of the vagina, thus stimulating the G-Spot. The male may also wish to vary his thrusting pattern and depth in this position. The man may want to start by doing 3-4 shallow thrusts followed by one deep full thrust and work his way towards many deep thrusts followed by 1-2 shallow ones.What does she do?
There isn't much for the woman to actually do while in this position. The main thing she should do is to pay attention to where her legs and feet are. A very common place for them while in this position is on top of the male's shoulders or just coming off the male's mid-section. Try to support your own body in whatever way possible in order to take some of the stress off your partner.
Have Sex in the Doggy Style Position
Doggy style, in English also known as the "doggy position," "kitty style," "retrocopulation," or simply "rear entry;" in Latin as coitus more ferarum ("sex by the custom of beasts"); in the French language as levrette ("female Greyhound"); in the Italian language as pecorina ("little sheep"); in the Russian language as раком ("crayfish"); and in the Kama Sutra as "the Union of the Cow"; is a sex position. The name of the position refers to the position assumed by dogs when mating (although dogs, unlike most other mammals, actually spend most of their copulation with the partners standing tail to tail, facing in opposite directions; see canine copulation).
In the doggy position, the receiving partner crouches on all fours with the legs slightly spread, while the penetrating partner penetrates the receiver vaginally or anally from behind, either using the penis or a strap-on dildo.
What is it
If you have seen any video with two animals getting down, then you have an idea of what doggy style looks like. Doggy style allows for much deeper penetration then you get in Missionary position. This is because the vagina is in a different alignment than normal. Because of this increased stimulation, many guys have reported having a harder time holding off an orgasm.
Doggy style is by far one of the most common sexual positions and should be a part of any couple's sexual toolbox.
How do you do it?
Doggy style is done by the woman getting on her hands and knees while the man enters her from behind. Typically he is on his knees while doing this.
What does he do?
The male starts out in a position directly behind the woman, usually on his knees, although it is possible that he can be standing up if she is on the bed. The male should find the vaginal opening and position his penis on the outside. Depending on how wet she is, the man should be able to determine how slow or fast he will enter her. Typical hand position is to hold on to her hips. This allows the male to pull her into as he thrusts which makes for a more enjoyable sexual experience.
This position leaves the male's hands free for fondling breasts, or clitoral stimulation. This attention may reduce a woman's feeling of being treated as a sex object.
What does she do?
This is a position that will require a little bit of work at the beginning from the woman. The two things that she needs to work on are angle and position. Because the male's penis may not line up perfectly height-wise with her vagina she will need to either raise or lower herself to figure out how high or low she needs to be. Also she'll need to find the right angle of her hips to accomodate his penis so it doesn't fall out. If you have a smaller sized penis, it is more prone to falling out, so this may be a position that takes some practice.
- The biggest problem with the doggy style position is that finding the right height and angle of the vagina can be difficult. With some practice and experience this usually goes away.
- The male has a tendency to reach orgasm faster because he is able to penetrate so deeply.
- This is not the most intimate position. Many women complain of feeling like a sexual object because of this, which detracts from their enjoyment of the act. An emotionally sensitive male may feel out of contact with her at times when having sex in this position.
- To reduce the problem of sliding/slipping apart over the course of sex, the woman can place her legs between the man's legs and then wrap her feet around his legs. This will keep the two as close as possible and keep the couple from sliding apart.
- To overcome the absense of intimacy, you may want to try lying down. The woman would be on her stomach, and the man's stomach would be against her back. In past experiences it doesn't make the woman feel degraded, and it allows you to easily lean in to kiss her, kiss her ear, etc. etc. Also, try to have her rhymthymically tighten her butt/vaginal muscles as you go in and out, creating more pressure against your penis, and makes it have a slight vibration feeling.
Have Sex in the Female Superior (Woman on Top) Position
What is it
Saddle up there cowgirl, it's time to ride your man like the wild steed that he is. After all, why should the man be forced to do all the work while the woman just gets to just lie there? The female superior position is one of the staple positions in any couple's sexual repertoire. Many women prefer this position because it allows them to control how everything goes. Let's be honest, a man is going to orgasm no matter what is going on, for a woman to however it sometimes take a little bit extra work. This is perfect for that because she can make sure her clit gets stimulated, that the pace is right, etc.
This is also a good position for domination. By allowing the woman to be in such a position of power, she can dominate the man, whether he is tied up or just being overpowered. Another good way to use this position is just to mix things up when having sex missionary style. On a decent sized bed it is fairly easy just to roll over 180 degrees without even having to pull out.
How do you do it?
The woman on top position is done just the way it sounds like it is done, with the woman on top. The woman climbs on top of the male, inserts him into her and moves her hips in a variety of ways. While this is happening, if the couple can get the timing down then the male can thrust at the same time, which can lead to very deep and vigorous penetration.
There are two basic versions of the woman on top position. Either lying down like you would find in the missionary position or in the straddling position. While lying down provides for more of a face to face sexual experience, straddling allows for much deeper penetration and a much rougher session.
Because the male is not in control of the thrusting and has no easy way to stop it, under no circumstances should this position be attempted while using the pull out method of birth control. If you do this, you will become parents very quickly.
What does he do?
The main job of the male in this position is to just lie there. He should try to thrust with her in order to cause more stimulation, but this is not necessary and often times inadvisable for inexperienced couples. If the timing is not right, it will just result in him popping out a lot. The male should use his hands to grope the woman's breasts or play with her clit to further improve her experience.
What does she do?
The woman gets the bulk of the work in this position. In addition to having to get the angle of the hips right, she also needs to do the inserting and removing. There are two basic ways to do this.
- The woman moves her hips. This is best done in about the same fashion as when the male thrusts in to her. By doing this she'll change the orientation of the vagina which will cause the male to slide in and out. This causes a lot of friction so it will feel a lot better for both partners, although it will probably leave the woman a little sore afterwards.
- The woman sits up and lifts herself on and off her partner. The result is that she physically lifts herself off the penis and then sits back down on it. This way is more difficult as the woman will often rise too high and the penis will fall out. The advantage is that she is not as likely to be sore afterwards. The drawback is that if she isn't very well trained, her thigh muscles are. Caution should be taken for her not to sit back too hard on the penis when it does fall out, as getting it the wrong way could result in injury to a spongy body.
Have Sex in the Leapfrog Position
The leapfrog position is similar to the doggy style position but with a slight twist and added benefits. Instead of the submissive person being on "all fours," he or she lowers the upper torso. He or she can either keep the rear end up with knees slightly locked to create a 45 degree angle or he/she may lower the entire body, causing the partner to also need to squat more. In the more angled position, it will often times cause the urge to slide the legs back some, creating a look similar to that of a frog jumping (hence the name, although some compare it to the child-like game of "leapfrog," also, because it looks like the person in the back is getting ready to jump over the one in front).
Advantages and Disadvantages
Because this position can be done either with the front person's legs between the others, or on the outside, there are different advantages/disadvantages depending on the variation. If the front person's legs are on the inside, it creates a smaller, tighter entrance and if they're on the outside, it opens it up some and may feel looser, but it allows for deeper penetration. Regardless, the different angle can create new sensations for both partners.
It is sometimes relieving for the front partner to somewhat relax, laying his/her head on a pillow or on crossed arms, but this can also sometimes restrict the breathing, so caution should be taken.
As with doggy style position, this position allows for easy access for manual stimulation of the front person's genitals. It may create the feeling of domination and control, too, and allow for direct spanking or fondling without the reciprocation of the partner.
It is especially beneficial to pregnant women, too, as it takes the stress off the belly, and in the more kneeling variation, it can prevent pain from hard thrusting.
You can also be at a 75 degree angle and then you place a foot on the side of her head and apply mild preasure causing the other side to push into the surface you are on and proceed to do it, but with added pleasure.
Have Sex in the Missionary Position
What is it
When you think of sex, odds are you might be one of many people thinking of the missionary position. While for some, it may not be considered as enjoyable as some of the other positions, such as Doggy Style or the Butterfly it can certainly have its advantages. The biggest of these is that due to the orientation of the bodies, it can allow for a very intimate sexual experience. It is very easy for one partner to look the other in the eye, to kiss the other one, etc. As a result and because it is the most commonly thought of position, this is how a great number of people lose their virginity and studies have shown it is also the most widely used position.
This position can also be more accessible to females with disabilities and, or physical limitations in their leg or body movement, however, if you do have a disability or physical limitation and want to try this position, please consult your doctor or medical professional, should you have any concerns for injury or comfort while using this position.
It can be the opinion of some to find the missionary position to be boring. This is only based on the individual perception of the person and should in no way, determine your perception or choices because many people also enjoy this position. As in all aspects of sexual postures, the enjoyment or lack of enjoyment experienced by the participants, relates more to how willing and, or creative a person chooses to be when taking advantage of the benefits it can provide. If you are looking for a vigorous, emotionless sex session, then you can experiment with a variety of positions including this one, according to your individual style. If you are looking for a position that allows you to feel close to your lover, then this might be a good one to you.
How do you do it?
Missionary position can be a very simple and easy position to perform. It is accomplished by having the male lie on top of the female. Typically the female will put her legs around him, lift them in the air or do something else. In this set up the male can easily thrust into the woman.
When you think of sex, odds are this is the position that you think of.
What does he do?
This can be a fairly tiring position for the male. Begin by climbing on top of the woman, positioning yourself so that your penis is a little higher then it should be to enter the vagina. This will allow you to pull back a little, while still being in good position to thrust all the way into her. Consider your partner's wishes before engaging in a full thrust, especially if your penis is larger or longer than an average size. Once you are in position, find the entrance to her vagina. Depending on how well-lubricated she is, you may need to reach down and find it with your fingers first. If she is really lubricated, odds are you'll be able to find it with the tip of your penis. As some women have different levels of self-lubrication, it might be a good idea to have some personal lubricant available.
Once you find the entrance and as long as you are gentle enough to suit your partner's preference and your own, gradually slide your penis in as far as it will comfortably go. How lubricated she, and how comfortable she is with your presence inside of her, will determine whether you need to take your time and do this slowly, or whether you can fully penetrate relatively easily and quickly. Once you are inside, and if your partner is comfortable with this, begin to thrust. Be sure to do this with your hips and not your feet. A common mistake made in this position is the male will push his whole body forward using his toes and knees, rather then pivoting with his hips. Using your feet can make it hard to get a good and efficient thrust. In addition, you can end up pushing your partner farther towards the end of the bed, which can be bad in the long run. Always be sure to use your hips, not your feet, you will be able to thrust a lot faster this way too, should that be comfortable.
Kissing and sucking on her breasts, particularly her nipples, can be arousing to many women and while in this position, being inside of her, it is a good opportunity to find out if she would enjoy this.
What does she do?
For some, the perception of the missionary position is that it does not leave the woman with a whole lot of choices on what to do, while it can also be true that she has a lot more to do then merely lay there. Depending on the position of her particular anatomy in relation to her partner, a woman may not need to worry as much about maintaining a good angle like she does in other positions.
The woman starts by getting her legs in a good position to be entered. The legs do not need to be left laying and unattended. For some, this can make for a terrible sexual experience, depending on the person's tastes. Instead, the woman can spread and lift her legs. By adjusting the height and orientation of her legs during sex, the woman can control in part how deep her lover can go and how much friction occurs. This is where a pillow beneath the woman's hips can come in handy for some.
If it is desirable to provide the deepest comfortable penetration, one of the most efficient leg positions is found by wrapping your legs around your partner's hips. This can allow him very deep penetration and it is important for you to provide him a guide for just how deep or shallow is comfortable for you to be penetrated. Many women enjoy this position because it allows them easy access to their clitoris. Since only a small percentage of women's orgasms are from vaginal stimulation, manual stimulation of her clitoris during sex (or otherwise) can increase the odds for some women to have an orgasm. It is also important to note, that many women achieve gratifying sexual pleasure from vaginal stimulation as well. Experiment with this and find out just what your own desires are.
It is also possible for some women to push back fairly easily in this position too. This is done by pushing back on the male when he thrusts into you. The hard part here, can be getting the timing right so that you're not pulling back while he is pushing forward, etc.
You can also find more choices of things to do if the man is not directly on his knees but laying down between your legs with more of his weight distributed along his legs instead of directly upon his knees. In this position it is useful for the man to use his hips with penetration as mentioned above. You can find access to his head, shoulders and buttocks for stroking and massaging while he is in this position. It can be possible from this position for you to caress your partner's buttocks in a way that can assist him in penetrating you or coax him into favorable patterns of thrusting. Since the partner's faces are closer when the male is not directly on his knees, kissing of his neck, mouth and shoulders can be easier to attain in this posture.
- One common problem with this position is that it can be hard to maintain with partners of differing heights on a bed. This is because when the male pushes with his legs and even sometimes when he pushes with his hips, the female has a habit of sliding forward. Put this over a long enough period of time and her head will be against the head board and if he is taller then her, this will mean he can't get in as deep. Be sure to take a moment every now and then to readjust in order to avoid this.
In some instances, it helps the female to have a small pillow (sex pillow) or wedge of padded material to use and place beneath her hips. This pillow provides a lift to the vagina and some times can make access a bit easier. Please note, that with the use of the wedge, deeper penetration can be more possible, especially for men with smaller penises or women with a longer vaginal passage. With deeper penetration, make sure your partner can be comfortable with the depth of your penetration.
- Have the woman put her legs on the mans shoulders. This angles her vagina to allow for a deeper penetration.
- Another fun variation is to have the woman turn on her side in a semi-fetal position while the man is still penetrating her from the same position he was using for regular missionary. The woman's position constricts the vagina, making it snugger around the penis, and is also HIGHLY enjoyable for the woman.
Have Sex in the Reverse Cowgirl Position
What is it
The reverse cowgirl is simply a wonderful position. If you've watched porn for any length of time you have likely seen it. Reverse cowgirl is similar to regular cowgirl except instead of facing the man, the woman turns around and points her ass towards him. The advantages of this are numerous.
- The position allows for far deeper penetration than others.
- The woman has more control over how fast, how deep and at what angle.
- Allows for easier clitoral stimulation.
- If its a one night stand you shouldn't be having, you are both able to not look at the other.
How do you do it?
Reverse cowgirl can take a little practice, but in concept it is very simple to do. The woman positions herself on top facing away from the man and slides his penis inside of her.
What does he do?
This is another one of those wonderful positions where the man doesn't really have much to do apart from work on her. The woman does most of the work while the man lies there and relaxes. The man can buck the woman a little bit, or reach around and caress almost any part of her, other than that though, there are not too many options since she's probably working hard to stay there.
What does she do?
The woman starts facing away from the man. She then angles the penis backwards and guides it into her vagina. At this point she begins slowly moving up and down with varying rates of speed until one or both partners finish.
The two big problems with this position are keeping the penis in and not hurting it. The woman needs to be careful not to push the penis too far backwards or she could risk damaging it.
Have Sex in the Spoon Position
What is it
The spoon position is one of the more intimate sexual positions there are. If you want wild and crazy monkey sex, this is not for you. If however you want to "make love" with your partner and feel a very close, intimate bond, this is a very good position. The spoon position is just like regular spooning, only naked and with penetration. Because the male is able to wrap his arms around the female and establish a lot of body contact, a real close connection can be felt.
For straight stimulation or deep penetration, this is not a great position. While resembling a sideways version of the doggy style position it does not allow for the same kind of deep thrusting action which that position is so known for. Also, if you are utilizing the pull out method of birth control, this position is also not real advisable since it will be harder to escape in time due to the restricted range of motion.
Spoon position is the most common position for early morning sex. It is very easy to find yourself in a position while lying next to loved one in the morning and it is a nice and gentle way to start the day, definitely better than a cup of coffee.
How do you do it?
The spoon position is a fairly simple position to get into. Both partners lie down on the bed positioned on their sides, the male behind the female. Both curve their legs, the female a little less then the male. The male comes in from behind the female so that his curve legs are touching hers. The male then enters the female from behind and then gentle sex begins.
What does he do?
This is a position that does not require much work from either partner. The male positions his body so that it bascially interlocks with the female body. Following this, he enters her from behind. The thing to remember with this position is that deep penetration is very hard to achieve, so be happy with slow, mid-depth thrusting. This is a sensual position, don't try to be too aggressive.
A good way to increase the intimacy is to wrap your arms around the front of your partner. This will make it easier to hold her while you thrust. You will also feel closer and more sensual. If your partner opens her legs a little, you will be in a good position for stimulating her clitoris with your upper hand.
What does she do?
The only thing the female really needs to worry about is making sure that she angles her hips properly. This can be slightly difficult because there will be a tendency to bend forward since that is the easiest way. This may be necessary for initial penetration, but once things get going you should be able to lean back and get close to the male again.
During sex, try reaching your arm around and rub your partner's ass or balls. This will increase the pleasure for the male as well as increase the intimate nature of the experience as a whole.
Have Sex in the Spread Eagle Position
The spread eagle position is where the currently submissive person is 'spread out' like an eagle who has spread its wings. This can either be done in a lying down or standing.
Lying Down Spread Eagle
If on a bed, for example, the person's hands should be pointed to each corner of the headboard, and the feet towards opposite ends. The person, either male or female, can also be tied down, or other various bondage materials can be used, such as handcuffs, ropes, or scarves. The other person can then mount them--if it is a girl doing the mounting, she can do it in either cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. This is also a suitable position for 69. This is a favorable position to create a feeling of vulnerability (you cannot get much more open than being spread eagle and having everything exposed) and if the first is restrained, it creates even more domination as the person literally has no range of motion to do much more than wiggle. Remember to be safe and follow general rules of bondage, including using a safe word. Even without restraints, it can be a fulfilling experience, although if the male is in the dominating position and is not that well endowed, there may not be as much satisfaction for either, as the female's legs puts her vagina in the most 'open' position.
Standing Spread Eagle
Basically the same as in the lying down spread eagle, this one is where the submissive person is standing. This is almost always the female, as it is hard for the male to stand to have sex without having his hands wrapped around the female is some way or another. This is most often seen in BDSM scenes.
Spread eagle position can also be used to described various positions that involve the woman just having her legs spread wide open. This may include the the legs being bent, or the woman just not having her arms/hands spread out also.
Perform a Wounded Seagull
What is a Wounded Seagull?
A Wounded Seagull is participated by four men and one woman. The woman simultaneously performs various sexual actions on the four men.
- 1 horny woman
- 4 willing men
- Alot of lubricant
How it's Done
- The woman lies down on a bed in a safe area, free of sharp objects.
- The first man's pelvis is between the woman's legs as he gives her vaginal sex.
- The second man then sits on top of the woman's breasts and inserts his penis into her mouth.
- The final two men then sat beside the woman and she gives them both hand jobs.
- Continue until all are satisfied.
NOTE: This procedure can be partaken in by a fifth man who lies underneath the woman, giving her anal.
Origin of Name
The name derives from the action itself. While the woman is performing this action, she takes the position of a Wounded Seagull.