Five Ways to Manage Your Husband

We chat about a lot of things with my husband in the evenings, when the children are already in bed. Including about the relationship between a man and a woman, about any family, why someone succeeds, and someone does not. And, of course, topics about subordination, supremacy and equality in the family. And somehow, in the process of discussing who uses whom, my husband told me with a laugh - and you write an article called "N Ways to Manage Your Husband. Yes, someday, as a joke to dilute serious topics. And so, once again, furious from childish disobedience, squabbles, mess in the room (and, to be honest, not wanting to get up from the couch), I tell my husband - go to them, please, they don’t listen to me at all, but You are still the head of the family. And then I understand, here it is, of course, not management, but obvious manipulation of her husband. Moreover, it is completely ordinary, familiar, maybe a little dishonest, but not harmful to anyone. Actually, this is not a very worthy example, it would be nice to get rid of such things and it’s better to be honest - I’m also too lazy. On the other hand, in the conditions of a long life together, spouses usually understand everything, and such petty slyness is perceived with understanding. Because a close person usually knows you as flaky. And if he does not want to succumb to manipulation, he will not succumb to them, especially such frank ?? But I imagine how indignant you are - manipulation! What a horror! The very word "manipulation" now has an exclusively negative connotation, in connection with a certain use of it. "Manipulate consciousness", "manipulate the masses" and so on somehow do not add to his positivity. Meanwhile, there are several meanings of the word "manipulation", one of them really has a negative connotation - to commit fraud, something dishonest. But there is another meaning, which is much closer to the original meaning of the word. Manipulation is a complex technique, a complex action performed during the performance of any work. For example, when you sign documents for an operation, it says right there - I allow any manipulations at the discretion of the doctor. (Manipulation - manipulation). True, this definition applies to a greater extent to actions performed by hands, but still. Note that the definition says "difficult reception"! That is, something that requires effort, skill, patience and the work of the mind. And, having begun to reflect and analyze our behavior, it is easy to understand that our whole life is a complete manipulation. Any communication is manipulation, one way or another, to one degree or another, and mutual for those who communicate. And the process of education is simply impossible, unimaginable without manipulation. The educator only does what he does with consciousness and behavior, uses complex techniques and actions, even if he does not specifically think about it. You can disagree with this, but I believe that family life, especially at the time of its formation, is all built on the mutual education of each other, education in the good sense of the word, and not in terms of “training” and adapting the spouse to his own needs. And in the process of family life, we somehow manipulate each other, and sometimes imperceptibly not only for the second half, but also for ourselves. Thus, there is a recognition of different sides of character and nature, grinding to each other. So there is nothing wrong with manipulation in this case. Another question is what goals and methods are chosen. Here, as always in life, if the goal is good, and the means (methods) are normal, then the action is with a plus sign. And if the goal is to subjugate a person, to use him for his desires and needs, regardless of his own needs, then, of course, this is where the very negative meaning of the word “manipulation” appears. Roughly speaking, what matters is why and how you do it - for your own benefit or for mutual benefit נערות ליווי בחיפה. For the sake of sports interest, I searched the Internet for what they write on the topic “how to manage (or manipulate) a man.” A lot of interesting, a lot of useful, by the way, for the formation of relations in particular. But 50% of the tips are related to attraction to the opposite sex. That is, to achieve any goals and results, it is advised to use attraction. To do this, you can use both appearance, and clothes, and demeanor - in general, everything that somehow increases your female attractiveness. Also, for example, it is proposed to use flirting or, for example, an invasion of personal space (within 50 cm), if the conversation is about an outsider from whom you need to achieve something. In general, things are not very correct and attractive, frankly, especially for a Christian woman, and even more so for a married woman. And for use, so to speak, "in everyday life", these methods are completely unsuitable. It is strange to try to get something from her husband with the help of her female attractiveness. Firstly, everything is available to him anyway, for it is not the wife who is the mistress of her body, but the husband.