Control, sensuality, devotion, love, reverence, and above all consensually. These are the key elements of the BDSM lifestyle. It can be an integral part your daily life or something you only experience behind closed doors with leather and chains. There is something primal about this culture that is inexhaustible and exotic. What makes a woman or man trust and allow another person to control them? That is what compels the same woman or man to grab the control offered and turn the submissive on her or his head with unimaginable, sweet bliss unimagined.
BDSM Devices is a product of primal instincts. However, many people misquote it, making it look ugly and vulgar. It doesn't matter if it is your core or something you do occasionally, dedication is essential. What is your goal? To what? BDSM is another example of this. It's not about denying someone control or choice. You must give it to the submissive. The submissive must state, "I entrust my heart, body, and mind to you."
Although we are being allegories, without mutual consent from all parties, any acts that you engage in will be tarnished. People who claim to be able to comprehend the concepts and facets BDSM, are all too common. Insincerity, dishonesty, and a desire to get the next thrill are all too common. They do not care about how true believers live their lives. Trusting your partner is essential, as he/she must trust you. You must also love and cherish them.
You should be able to show your submissive side and not just be the dominant party. Your partner should know that you are yours in everything. You must support and understand your partner when the euphoria wears off. It is important to distinguish between reality and fantasy in your sex lives. Your partner should never ask you to prioritize what is most important. The ideal relationship will have you right there with the other things you value and love as much as you respect them.
You must be open to learning, adapting and teaching. It is possible to be authoritative and instructive without being a bully, or a tyrant. A D/s couple can reach new heights together by pushing the boundaries every time the metaphorical blindfold is in place. You can delight your partner and yourself by gently nudging the boundaries. Never make undue demands (or indeed demands at all). Your partner will do whatever you ask. They will not be punished if they don't.